Love & Acceptance

Most people need love and acceptance a lot more than they need advice. Bob Goff

I forgot to include something in my previous post. I was trying to watch my word count, and I left out an important part of the story; which was the reason that I chose to do the visualization of my inner critic in the first place!

My friend that asked me to share Saturday night spoke after me, and something he said really stuck with me. About love and acceptance.

There’s something that I’ve felt I lacked… you know… that something that was holding me back from being more of service before. I thought perhaps it was the thought that I didn’t know enough, or maybe I didn’t have enough sobriety time, or…. ??

The point is that I’ve never been able to pinpoint what it was that was holding me back.

There are two sayings in the program that baffled me, because they are almost conflicting. One is you can’t transmit something you haven’t got… and the second is that you have to give it away to keep it.

I have God and I have sobriety. I have peace, and joy, and serenity (most of the time). But something still didn’t seem right. What was I missing?!? Did I have IT or NOT?

Anyway… his share was about having love and acceptance for yourself. Because if you don’t have THAT, you can’t very well transmit it.

Wow. Was I ever glad that I went to that meeting. That’s what I’ve been missing!

In doing the 4th step (my fearless and searching moral inventory), and in learning about humility, so much time, focus, and energy had to be spent on discovering what was wrong with me. My faulty beliefs, my wrong thoughts and actions, and my character defects.

And I totally understand that, and am so grateful that God opened my eyes!

But, somewhere in the process… that nasty inner critic of mine took up residency and he likes to hammer away at me. Not constantly, but usually about the time that everything seems to be going really well. That’s when he starts sending me negative messages. Those imaginary roadblocks; like fear and doubt.

I know that God loves me. There is no question there. He has removed the desire to drink from me, and has shown me how to live. But sometimes my light just doesn’t SHINE.

How can I shine if I’m not feeling good about myself?!?

YES… I need to keep an eye on my thoughts, actions and motives… But NO… I can’t allow that old negative geezer to pick me apart.

So that’s what prompted this. And things are going GREAT.

I’ve got some new ideas for writing and images, something that will benefit others, and I will share more as things unfold. In the meantime, I have an interview tomorrow at a staffing agency. Just for some temp work while I get things back in order. Well, that’s the plan anyway.

Life is good and God is GREAT.

Peace and Love Everyone!!


  1. Well done Janet! Never allow what you where to over ride what you are now, regardless of how imperfect you may feel now. We are all imperfect. If we could become perfect by ourselves our heavenly Father wouldn’t have asked Jesus to give his life on the cross so that we could be righteous in His sight. Take a look at my post on “Emotions” when you get a chance. Always remember that you can accept yourself now, as you are now, because our heavenly Father accepts you and loves you because He sees you in His Son Jesus. What you where is gone, buried, forgotten, no more. Remember that Jesus said to take His yoke upon you, you are coupled to Jesus, He will carry the heavy load, just follow his leading. Worthy is the Lamb! Blessings!

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    1. Thank you Bruce!! I will look at that post later. I have several of yours I want to get to actually. Hopefully this weekend I can catch up. ❤ thanks again.


  2. This makes me think of what I’ve read of the very early days of AA or even before. Bill W. and Dr. Bob saw that they had not been very successful with getting people to stay sober, but they found that by trying to help by sharing their experience they stayed sober.
    self-love and acceptance is a constant back and forth. Just remembering the way God loves me is what brings me back.

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    1. Makes total sense but that inner critic likes to question that I am acceptable to Him. I know it sounds ridiculous but it comes sometimes. Im shutting that thought out. 🎈


  3. Thanks for sharing. I have a poetry blog here on WordPress and today’s poem is about self acceptance and love in case you have time to look? Wishing you a fulfilling day ahead, Sam 🙂

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